Suffering

People are already suffering from their own battles, which you never imagine. All have their own problems to deal with. Some choose to solve silently. On the other side, some are seeking help to solve it. That’s not a weakness of other people, but they cannot do it their own way. That’s why they need help. But it is a human tendency who choose to seek help. People tag them as weaker or always treat them as “bichara.” And some of your close friends tell you that you just want entertainment, that’s why you have done all of this. Are you serious? I experienced those things, so I decided to fight my battles in my own way and not tell people what was bothering me. They listen and give some “gyan”, that’s it. But if they put themselves in our shoes, they will know how it feels. But it is OK if they make fun of our problems. It’s their choice. So why do you give them a reason to make fun of you and crack the joke? Deal with its own na. I know sometimes it’s not easy to deal with it own. At that time, you need some person to listen to you, so its okay if you can heart out with someone close to you, but make sure that listener is more capable or trustworthy and can give their shoulder to you rather than give you some “muftka ka gyan.” But trust me, in the suffering stage, you know about your real people. You know whom for you matter the most.

                                                                      - Moni🥀

Stalking

Yeah stalking someone’s life and interfering in it is the worst thing you do. Yeah I have done this, but after that, I regret this. Because I wasted so much time on it, I Stalked too, and just for his/her social media appearance, I judged myself and compared myself. What pathetic behaviour of mine. How could it be I’m so stupid? When I think about those things, I regret about wasting my time. I chose to stalk some of them rather than focus on improving myself. One thing is clear: You can’t judge someone based on their physical appearance on social media and give them more importance than yourself. I’m not saying that his/her is not pretty. But you can't compare yourself to the era of smartphones and so many editing features. Be true to yourself. Focus on yourself. People are different in their own way. You should start loving yourself the way you are. People judge you and rate you in any way. Some judge you by your physical appearance, others side judge you by your nature, some judge you by how you talk, some judge you by how you walk, some judge you by your sense of humour, some judge you by your behaviour towards them and the judging pattern goes on. So stop comparing yourself to anyone. Just be yourself. If someone wants to stay in your life, they accept you the way you are, and if he/she wants to leave, he/she finds one reason to leave you. Liking by oneself is much more important than liking by others. If you can’t love or like yourself, how do you expect someone to like or love you? I know sometimes we are all in that one phase where we make mistakes, which is fine. That’s just a phase of life, not your whole life. So stop stalking someone and focus on your life. Time is very precious, so don’t waste it on this thing.

 

                                                                   - Moni 🥀

Perspective

How you see things is upon you. Sometimes what you see is not the reality, or maybe its reality. All have different perspectives to see things. If you see things another way, and others see the same things differently, that doesn’t mean you are wrong, or the other is wrong. Both are right in their own ways. But one thing I say is to always see things positively and learn to accept and let go of things. You suffer because your way of seeing things is related to the imaginary world; because of this, you are not see things as real. Way of thinking and way of seeing things is connected to each other. What you are thinking directly reflects your perspective of seeing things. So make sure that you have always chosen the right perspective to see it in any situation. “Coin has two sides.” So you can not react based on seeing one side; you have to think about the other side to try to understand the other side and then give your reaction.

                                                                   - Moni🥀

Time

Time. Time is a very important factor in life. Time never stops for anyone. Do want you want in the present moment, and never wait for the perfect time; otherwise, you will miss the opportunities and regret it for rest of your life. Time gives us many chances, but that’s human nature that we wait for the perfect timing. In this process, we never realized that time never stops for anyone. It will never come back again, so do what you like or what your heart says. Sometimes we are confused between the heart and the mind concept. If our heart says to do it now, but our mind always says the opposite, we prefer to accept our mind’s voice rather than the heart. I don’t say mind or illusion is always wrong, but sometimes taking action in time is the most satisfying factor. Sometimes we think and think but never realize that we wasted our precious time on thinking rather than taking action. If we take an action, we get a positive or negative result, but at least we will be satisfied that we took a chance. So make your present time your perfect time. Don’t waste it in assuming process. Take a step at on time.

                                                              - Moni🥀

Stop Comparing Yourself with Others

Comparison is the worst thing. If you’re doing it then just stop it here. Everyone has a different choice in their lives. You can’t compare yourself with anyone. In the comparison process, you ignore the things that you already have. You waste so much time on people or their lives. You haven’t seen their whole life story, so how do you compare them with yourself? You have your own individually, your own uniqueness, your own choices. Sometimes what you want you can’t get and someone else gets that thing easily. That doesn’t mean you start comparing yourself with them and start assuming things. They get things easily because sometimes they need that thing more than you. And another possibility is that you already have the things that you need the most. But that’s human nature. You always cry for the things which are not in your life and in this process you ignore the blessings of God, and ignore how blessed you’re already.

                                                                - Moni🥀

Time

Sometimes you act so stupid and give power to people to disrespect you, give them a chance to prove you a fool. Sometimes you know everything but don’t want to accept anything and why, just because you love them nah that’s not love, that’s just foolishness. Remember one thing: mental peace matters a lot. You have to be mentally strong to accept things. Don’t act like you’re a puppet for them. Make your own individuality. Focus on your career, focus on yourself, focus on your family. Never waste your precious time and energy on someone who never wants to be a part of your life. Time is very precious, make every second count. 

                                                                     -  Moni🥀

Mind Games

Sometimes your mind is your biggest enemy. You think and think and think in a loop process. You’re just not thinking but thinking in a very negative way. You can’t control your thoughts at all. People always say that you have to think positively, but at some point in your life you can’t be a positive person like you were before. Mind is very tricky. When your heart is with you and always says good things about you, but the mind, your mind always triggers your weakness and makes you the worst person that you are not. As an overthinker, I can understand it better. Because of these things, I made some decisions in my past, but now when I remember this, I can not accept that I was so stupid. So, the mind is everything. You have to make a clear vision of it and always try to maintain the thought process. Feed some spiritual thoughts to your mind rather than social media or any kind of bullshit. Make sure your mindgame has to be very powerful so they don’t play with you.

                                                                   - Moni🥀

Anger Issues

Sometimes your voice in your head makes so much noise even if you’re able to control your anger. Don’t get excited about things and don’t react instantly. Think about it and notice things. All the time, reacting doesn’t be required. Time is never the same for anyone. At the particular moment, you never realise that silence is the key to any solution. But you choose to argue with someone rather than understanding the person’s point of view. Both are different people, so they both definitely have their own individual perspectives. So sometimes you have to “fit in their shoes” to understand them. Next time, think thousands of times before giving any reaction to things.

                                                                      - Moni🥀

Realisation

Yes some things happened to me. And because of that things I was blaming myself a lot. I wasn’t accepted it. But now I realised every thing happens for a reason, few years before I was totally different person. In the past few years I was made so many mistakes. Even my behavior was so childish, when you’re at your 30’ you have to be mature, but I was done some things which was against my nature. But after all of that I have learnt so many things. I am working on myself, Because of that incident I had realized that I was lacking behind. I have also learn about my weak points, how to control emotions, how overcome from the things. I was very negative person that time. Always thinking negative things was my habit. Always assuming things which is not real at all there was no connection between my assumption and real world, always overthinking on the things which aren’t real at all. Always blaming others but that was my bad. realisation is the best thing. But at the same time I feel that “ab to train chhut gayi”. But still hoping for the best.

                                                                  - Moni🥀

Accept the Change

Yes, people change through time and experience. You can't change past mistakes. Mistakes happen. Let's see them as a phase of life rather than blaming yourself. Sometimes things are not in your control. You know that that was a bad thing, but you did that shit by mistake, but that wasn't your fault. That was the wrong timing  of your life, that's it. Accept the change in you. Accept yourself with your flow. Think positively and let God guide you.

                                                                         - Moni🥀

Past Life

Sometimes you never forget your past or say you don’t want to forget the past because the past was much much better than your present, but the worst thing is that it was a past and you can't  change it. You have to deal with your present circumstances and live your life anyhow. When I see things now and past perspective I have realised so many things that some little talk with someone gave me happiness, some long talk with someone’ special gave me peace, Someone's smile made me smile. I miss all the little things from my past. I wish I could go back to time and pause it for a lifetime, but I know it’s just an imagination. 

                                                                                - Moni🥀

Overthinking

Overthinking kills your happiness. It's not just a quote or tag line, but it is a harsh truth. Yes, I said it this loudly because, as an overthinker, I experienced it. I wasted so much time on overthinking and making wrong decisions on that basis. After all my past experiences, I just learnt one thing: that overthinking not just kills the happiness of the person, the person's mental peace too. So stop the overthinking process and live life to the fullest.

                                                                                  - Moni🥀

Past Experiences

Things change, you change time by time but your past decisions, your past mistakes doesn’t change. So make sure whatever you think whatever decisions you will make, make sure that there will affect your future as good way. Eventually your life decisions always leading your future destiny. So make sure whenever you will make decisions, your mind always ready for your results. You will get two results either it will be bad or good but what will you want choice is yours. Think thousand time before you take any decisions, because as per I said past decisions and mistakes are never change.

                                                                    - Moni 🥀

     

Kitab

Panno pe likhi likhvat, 

Ko samjhna har kisi ke,

Bas ki baat nahi hoti,

Yaha padane wale kayi milege,

Par baat to tab bane jab koi samjh paye…!!!

                                                          - Moni🥀